Today at work something incredibly funny and fascinating was brought to my attention. I will paraphrase it a little.
“Frank and his fiancée are living together with his future in-laws? They aren’t married yet? That is bad,” said Person A.
“Shame on him, living in sin. I did it too when I was younger but shame on him,” said Person B.
What is fascinating to me is not the dogma that is central to the theme, but the hypocrisy and judging. Which was later followed by copious talk about extensive gambling from Person B, a recreational gambler. I’m not even mad, I just find it very interesting. It is an aspect of human nature I have observed many times across a few belief systems, but one more than the others.
Let me make this clear so this doesn’t turn into a gigantic religion argument.
I DON’T CARE WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN.
Do what makes you happy, complete, warm, and/or tingly inside. Life is too short to be anything but happy. As long as what you believe in doesn’t hurt anybody or impede my ability to pursuit/be happy, I don’t care.
If you believe in Shiva or Jesus, it makes no difference to me. Your relationship with whatever flavor of belief you follow is your business and belongs between you and your deity/deities. I will have civilized logical discussions with you if you want, but ultimately it is your thing. Even if we believe in the same stuff, you have yours and I have mine. You don’t have to like my stance, but before you engage in a discussion with me, know that this is mine.
That being said, the hypocrisy is what I find interesting. The fact that somebody is quick to pass judgement on my life while at the same time having been in the same situation, then ignoring any further transgressions they conduct themselves against what they supposedly revolve their life around.
I know this isn’t anything new and it happens everyday. I am aware of this. I am just making an observation.
So what compels a person to ignore their own ‘short comings’ and sneer at someone else’s?
Is it that when somebody is discussing varying aspects of life, are they detached from their own self, voided from their consciousness and see flaws like a person looking through a window?
Or is it that they are so aware of their own flaws that they must expose and comment on any other person’s?
I feel there is a potential story idea here. I keep mulling what passes through a person consciously and unconsciously for them to ignore their own flaws and judge the exact thing in another person. I probably do it myself and don’t realize. Something is there, but I can’t quite grasp it.
What do you think, any ideas?